THE WOUNDS YOU CANNOT SEE
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# 1. 4/13/17 8:09 AM by drummerpa - rochester, ny
This, to me, is the most important and needful article that you have written in my memory. While it is painful to read, it is also so true. I hope that all who read it will do something to show that they care.
# 2. 4/13/17 8:29 AM by Steve - Granville, Ohio
WRT ham at Easter:
Do ribs count?
# 3. 4/13/17 8:51 AM by Walt - Milano, TX
"Yet we have parades for the one and protests against the other. "
When I was a child in the 60s there were protests against those who served in the military. There were yelled at (called "baby killer"), their coffins were spat on or had eggs threw at them.
Fortunately our nation came to realize such disrespect was wrong; hopefully we will soon come to that same realization regarding law enforcement.
# 4. 4/13/17 10:00 AM by Poppy
In 2016, there were 106 police suicides in a force of close to a million officers.
Some additional data:
91 percent of police suicides are by males.
Ages 40– 44 are most at risk.
Time on the job: 15–19 years were most at risk.
# 5. 4/13/17 10:38 AM by Maria - Rochester NY
Having been the spouse of a Law Enforcement Officer for the last 15 years I can speak from experience. There have been periods of time after a death or serious event where we all walk around on eggshells. The stress seeps into all aspects of an officers life. The character of the majority of these officers make them suit up each and everyday to serve the public no matter "how they feel". I have always felt that the work cycle of officers should include some extended off road time. It could be formatted like a sabbatical. They could use this time for training or non police community service. There is no other professional field that is subjected to this kind of job stresses other than the military.
# 6. 4/13/17 11:39 AM
Bob don't blame the clerk for the post office not having a public restroom, blame the Rochester postmaster. People have often asked about bathrooms there and are always told there is not one available. I doubt the clerk had a bad attitude against cops. I believe even the employee restrooms are a bit of a hike from that area into the plant. He would have to be escorted well into the plant and back. As short staffed as the post office has been in recent years it would probably take a clerk off the line to do the escort. You said he had to go down the road for to find a bathroom. It was probably quicker that way. And if he really wants to be mistreated by the postmaster he can apply for a job there.
# 7. 4/13/17 12:33 PM
When Donald Trump was elected, I was happy and overjoyed. But about a week later, it dawned on me that I should be happy because the police in our nation also got who they wanted and needed as our President. And then I was even happier that the majority of police deserved Donald J. Trump to be elected. So that the police could better do their most difficult of jobs. And not be so hindered as in the past under several "do nothing" administrations. God Bless America, God Bless President Donald J.Trump, and especially God Bless the Police who serve and protect us!
# 8. 4/13/17 12:33 PM by Tony - Rochester
Spot on - Bravo!
# 9. 4/13/17 12:40 PM by Laura - Canandaigua
As the wife of a Trooper and mother of a deployed Marine, thank you for calling those observations to our collective attention! Too often people forget the wounds left to fester.
# 10. 4/13/17 3:45 PM by Sam Sr.
I'm in outrageous agreement unless ... you're talking about William Rosica.
There's this one place I used to frequent that later became a cop hangout. Many were great guys and others were pretty much beaten down and disillusioned. Over the years I sadly witnessed some of the great guys also become disillusioned.
Regardless I always greeted them with a smile, a handshake and, sometimes, a beer. As I listened to their stories I also became disillusioned.
# 11. 4/13/17 5:27 PM by Becky - Sodus NY
It's about time someone brought this problem to the fore. There is so much stigma around having PTSD in Emergency services, or even being able to speak up about it. It's not just police though. Some Fire and EMS personnel also suffer with it, and face the similar challenges. After 20 years of serving my community as a volunteer firefighter, I myself have PTSD. Thank you for trying to raise awareness.
# 12. 4/13/17 5:36 PM by Lou Rotunno - Fairport
I'm not sure if you remember me. I headed up the " Rainman" band for Off. Pierson. I agree with you 150% re; your comments about Police officers showing wear and tear from their careers. This is a topic no one wants to talk about, and I'm not sure why. I spent 22 yrs. with the RPD. Fifteen in the Homicide sqd, then called Phys. Crimes. and 6 years in the Narcotics sqd. I still have the nightmares, still think about the things that I observed, things that I had to do to get the job done. I was blessed to have had great bosses, i.e. Major Anthony Fantigrossi, and Det. Lt. Lou Trotto. So here we are 26 years into retirement and still dealing with the nightmares and thoughts. What does that tell you about your article. Thank God for my family and my music.
# 13. 4/13/17 6:09 PM by Olivia - Geneseo, NY
I would like to answer at least one of your questions - we don't like to accept or acknowledge PTSD or other job-related trauma or stress in police officers because then we also have to acknowledge that we are responsible for contributing to the conditions that caused it. It's different to acknowledge it in military personnel, because then we can blame the "other" for causing the distress. We have no responsibility for fixing the conditions, except perhaps to send in more military personnel. But if we acknowledge that our law enforcement personnel are suffering from the conditions in our backyard, then we accept responsibility for fixing it, which we don't want to do. We don't want to address poverty and racism and deficiencies in our education system, because there is no quick or easy fix, and because these are uncomfortable topics which are are difficult for people to discuss and come to an agreement on.
# 14. 4/13/17 6:16 PM
Thank you Bob ! Signed Deputy Sheriff
# 15. 4/14/17 6:34 AM by Dave - Webster
One of your best! This should be talked about more, I personally try to thank every officer I see to let them know the regular citizen appreciates what they do When you see an officer on duty, let them know "Blue Lives" matter, and the regular law abiding citizen thanks them for their service. Unfortunately what makes the news are the protesters. Are there people who should not wear the uniform, yes. But it is a very, very small percentage, all the rest are doing their best to keep us safe. Thanks for bringing this up. Happy Easter.
# 16. 4/14/17 10:29 AM
Thank you Bob for a great response to our police officers. You are right on with your comments.
# 17. 4/14/17 12:02 PM by Andrew - Henrietta
Applies for EMT's and fire fighters too.
# 18. 4/14/17 1:25 PM by KS - Ogden, UT
Amen, Bob. We'll said.
I live near Hill AFB and am privileged to see many uniformed soldiers, when I go into town. After 9/11 I decided to pay a little attention to them and thank them for their service. They always smile and acknowledge my comment, and often reply, "You're welcome!" I'm going to start doing that to the police and deputies I encounter, too.
Thanks for the inspiration, Bob. - ks
# 19. 4/14/17 9:42 PM by Gary Brennan - Ramona
Thanks for saying this for us. Even as State Park Peace Officer, we see the best and worst of our visitors. Search and rescue, recovery ops, or backing up the sherriff, we to see things that haunt us forever. Seeing or just hearing of officers down, attending the memorial services of those who's watch has ended prematurely, watching the families of the fallen officer, these all take there toll. Most of us who serve, miilitary and LE, are willing to pay the toll, but at what price?
# 20. 4/14/17 10:08 PM by Dan Giblin - Rochester
Why does Monroe County turn their back on the deputies and make us go 5 years without a contract/ raise?
# 21. 4/15/17 9:10 AM by Donald Grimes - Chili, NY
Well said, Bob. But I submit that the same could and SHOULD be said about our Corrections Officers. The main difference between them and their brothers and sisters on our Police Forces is that when they (COs) go to work, they KNOW that the people they will be dealing with are dangerous individuals, and even worse in groups. The have EARNED their pensions and shouldn't have to worry about whether some liberal bully of a Governor and his lapdogs in the press and Assembly try to generate public sentiment about reducing that pension.
# 22. 4/17/17 4:15 PM by lou Rawls - earth
Not sure why we hold them up higher than other individuals. They made a choicw to enter the military, so go ahead and live with your choices.
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